Child & Family Therapy
Counseling Individuals & Families in Walnut Creek, CA. & Pittsburg, CA.

Child & Family Counseling
2910 Camino Diablo Blvd.
Suite 130
Walnut Creek, CA 94597
(925) 984.1334
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130 E. Leland
Suite C
Pittsburg, CA 94565
(925) 984.1334
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Stress Management

What happens when I am stressed?
Stress is what you feel when you have to handle more than you are used to. When you are stressed, your body responds as though you are in danger. It makes hormones that speed up your heart, make you breathe faster, and give you a burst of energy. This is called the "fight-or-flight" stress response.
Some stress is normal and even useful. It can help if you need to work hard or react quickly. For example, it can help you win a race or finish an important job on time.
But if stress happens too often or lasts too long, it can have negative effects; headaches, upset stomach, back pain, or trouble sleeping. It can weaken your immune system, making it harder to fight off disease. If you already have a health problem, stress may make it worse. It can make you moody, tense, or depressed. Your relationships may suffer, and you may not do well at work or school.

What can I do about stress?
The good news is that you can learn ways to manage stress. To get stress under control:
• Find out what is causing stress in your life.
• Look for ways to reduce the amount of stress in your life.
• Learn healthy ways to relieve stress.

How do I figure out my stress level?
Sometimes it is clear where stress is coming from. You can count on stress during a major life change such as losing a loved one, getting married, or having a baby. But other times it may not be so clear why you feel stressed.
It may help to keep a “stress journal.” Get a notebook and write down when something makes you feel stressed.  Then write how you reacted and what you did to deal with the stress. Keeping a stress journal can help you find out what is causing your stress and how much stress you feel. Then you can take steps to reduce the stress or handle it better. 

How can I reduce my stress?
Stress is a fact of life for most people. While you may not be able to get rid of stress, you can look for ways to lower it.
Try some of these ideas:
• Learn better ways to manage your time. You may get more done with less stress if you make a schedule. Think about which things are most important, and do those first.
• Find better ways to cope. Look at how you have been dealing with stress. Be honest about what works and what does not. Think about other things that might work better.
• Take good care of yourself. Get plenty of rest. Eat well. Do not smoke. Limit how much alcohol you drink.
• Try out new ways of thinking. When you find yourself starting to worry, try to stop the thoughts. Work on letting go of things you cannot change. Learn to say “no.”
• Ask for help. People who have a strong network of family and friends manage stress better.
Sometimes stress is just too much to handle alone. It can help to talk to a friend or family member, but you may also want to see a counselor.

How can I relieve stress?
You will feel better if you can find ways to get stress out of your system. The best ways to relieve stress are different for each person. Try some of these ideas to see which ones work for you:
• Exercise. Regular exercise is one of the best ways to manage stress. Walking is a great way to get started.
• Write. It can really help to write about the things that are bothering you. • Let your feelings out. Talk, laugh, cry, and express anger when you need to.
• Do something you enjoy. A hobby can help you relax. Volunteer work or work that helps others can be a great stress reliever.
• Learn ways to relax your body. This can include breathing exercises, muscle relaxation exercises, massage, aromatherapy, yoga, or tai chi.
• Practice “being in the moment.” Try meditation, imagery exercises, or self-hypnosis. Listen to relaxing music.